opalgreen16 (4:07:58 PM): is there a WILD game tonight?
jmo7148 (4:08:03 PM): nope
jmo7148 (4:08:04 PM): tomorrow
opalgreen16 (4:08:04 PM): did you saturday's? i was pissed.
opalgreen16 (4:08:11 PM): YAY! lets watch tomorrow night
opalgreen16 (4:08:20 PM): watch saturday's*
jmo7148 (4:08:31 PM): i didn't
jmo7148 (4:08:34 PM): but i know they lost
jmo7148 (4:08:43 PM): and by wednesday i guess i mean thursday
opalgreen16 (4:08:46 PM): yeah they were up by 3 and than lost 5 to 3
jmo7148 (4:08:47 PM): and it's on KSTC
opalgreen16 (4:08:59 PM): oh well i can still watch it! cause i don't have my night class!
jmo7148 (4:09:10 PM): what are you going to watch it on?
opalgreen16 (4:09:10 PM): or not watch it? cause we don't get that channel
jmo7148 (4:09:14 PM): haha
jmo7148 (4:09:17 PM): i know
jmo7148 (4:09:18 PM): blows.
opalgreen16 (4:09:22 PM): green mill?
jmo7148 (4:09:31 PM): ooo.
opalgreen16 (4:09:31 PM): ground round?
jmo7148 (4:09:33 PM): dude
opalgreen16 (4:09:55 PM): "outercourse". did you know? used to be called "petting".
jmo7148 (4:09:59 PM): i've eaten out thursday, friday, last night, and today
jmo7148 (4:10:03 PM): haha!
jmo7148 (4:10:08 PM): i'm poh.
opalgreen16 (4:10:19 PM): poh?
jmo7148 (4:10:25 PM): poor
opalgreen16 (4:10:29 PM): nice
jmo7148 (4:10:32 PM): i try
opalgreen16 (4:10:37 PM): lots of rubbing...hah!!
jmo7148 (4:10:52 PM): oh great.
opalgreen16 (4:10:56 PM): LOL!!!!!! no entry! (that's your stance)
opalgreen16 (4:11:04 PM): OH. and mine.
jmo7148 (4:11:18 PM): pretty much.
opalgreen16 (4:11:32 PM): pretty much?
opalgreen16 (4:11:35 PM): ohhhh jillian....
jmo7148 (4:11:45 PM): no no!
jmo7148 (4:11:51 PM): dude not gonna lie
jmo7148 (4:11:52 PM): i thought about it
opalgreen16 (4:12:13 PM): welp. me too.
opalgreen16 (4:12:21 PM): but not just for a night
jmo7148 (4:12:34 PM): and friday came damn close
jmo7148 (4:12:36 PM): i know!
jmo7148 (4:12:38 PM): that's my deal
opalgreen16 (4:12:44 PM): oh gross. not with him
opalgreen16 (4:12:46 PM): haha
jmo7148 (4:12:48 PM): haha!
opalgreen16 (4:13:00 PM): and your period? damn gina
jmo7148 (4:13:09 PM): no!
jmo7148 (4:13:12 PM): it was done by then
opalgreen16 (4:13:52 PM): to each their own. i suppose.
jmo7148 (4:14:04 PM): haha
jmo7148 (4:14:06 PM): i suppose
jmo7148 (4:15:14 PM): i think he was getting a little upset about the whole thing though...
jmo7148 (4:15:17 PM): welp
jmo7148 (4:15:18 PM): too bad
opalgreen16 (4:15:23 PM): i can't believe you thought about it with j-bag
opalgreen16 (4:15:30 PM): oh well
jmo7148 (4:15:30 PM): haha why not?
opalgreen16 (4:15:33 PM): ick
jmo7148 (4:15:39 PM): oh carrie
opalgreen16 (4:15:42 PM): i think....differently....
jmo7148 (4:15:52 PM): earlier that day
jmo7148 (4:15:54 PM): at
jmo7148 (4:15:54 PM): um
jmo7148 (4:15:55 PM): chula
jmo7148 (4:16:10 PM): well, casey told ashley about him, and her and cj were asking about him
jmo7148 (4:16:22 PM): and sure enough, when we get to the game, he's standing right by the entrance
jmo7148 (4:16:31 PM): and i'm like "what's up?" and all that jazz
jmo7148 (4:16:44 PM): and they HAD to stop at the concession stand before we left
jmo7148 (4:16:53 PM): and they're like "jillian, he's hot. if you don't tap that, i will."
jmo7148 (4:16:58 PM): and i'm like Good God
opalgreen16 (4:17:25 PM): EWWWWWWWWWW
opalgreen16 (4:17:27 PM): not ok
jmo7148 (4:17:34 PM): haha!
opalgreen16 (4:18:00 PM): anyways, i feel differently about that whole situation
jmo7148 (4:18:11 PM): not by much
opalgreen16 (4:18:13 PM): and about sex. but that's just me
jmo7148 (4:18:16 PM): oh yes
jmo7148 (4:18:17 PM): well
jmo7148 (4:18:20 PM): idk
opalgreen16 (4:19:39 PM): well you should!
opalgreen16 (4:19:45 PM): you're not even on bc
jmo7148 (4:19:45 PM): haha i know
jmo7148 (4:20:00 PM): i know i know
jmo7148 (4:20:41 PM): idk carrie
jmo7148 (4:20:48 PM): i don't want to be 'that girl'
jmo7148 (4:20:52 PM): w/ him
jmo7148 (4:20:55 PM): so i haven't and won't
jmo7148 (4:21:13 PM): but casey's whole stance is getting to me
jmo7148 (4:21:17 PM): '3 months left, fuck it'
opalgreen16 (4:21:35 PM): well that's shitty. and extremely immature of her. is what i think.
opalgreen16 (4:21:55 PM): plus, have you seen her bf's? with the exception of dan?
jmo7148 (4:21:56 PM): i can see that too
jmo7148 (4:22:03 PM): i haven't actually
opalgreen16 (4:22:09 PM): not...so...good...
opalgreen16 (4:22:49 PM): plus they treated her shitty, and that really pissed me off
jmo7148 (4:22:58 PM): yeah
opalgreen16 (4:23:05 PM): and she's used to that.
opalgreen16 (4:23:18 PM): and that's just wrong. no one should be treated poorly.
jmo7148 (4:23:22 PM): i know
opalgreen16 (4:23:25 PM): really pisses me off
opalgreen16 (4:23:29 PM): with anyone
jmo7148 (4:24:09 PM): i guess it's just weird
jmo7148 (4:24:11 PM): or feels weird
jmo7148 (4:24:18 PM): because he's come over how many times
jmo7148 (4:24:23 PM): and we've never done it
jmo7148 (4:24:25 PM): obviously
jmo7148 (4:24:26 PM): you would know
jmo7148 (4:24:28 PM): and
jmo7148 (4:24:31 PM): he's asked before
jmo7148 (4:24:40 PM): and it's understood that anything major like that is up to me
jmo7148 (4:25:13 PM): but i feel like he probably thinks i'm a tease or whatever
opalgreen16 (4:25:29 PM): well he's used to loose girls
jmo7148 (4:25:34 PM): he's not though
jmo7148 (4:25:35 PM): that's the thing
jmo7148 (4:25:48 PM): they hang around, but it's not like that
opalgreen16 (4:25:53 PM): so he says.
jmo7148 (4:26:06 PM): welp, he's been honest about everything else
jmo7148 (4:26:18 PM): and
jmo7148 (4:26:21 PM): i f'ed up
jmo7148 (4:26:23 PM): before
jmo7148 (4:26:30 PM): and didn't tell you about this
jmo7148 (4:26:31 PM): ok
jmo7148 (4:26:31 PM): so
jmo7148 (4:26:36 PM): over break the benchmark thing
jmo7148 (4:26:44 PM): when he stayed over then too
jmo7148 (4:26:45 PM): welp,
jmo7148 (4:26:48 PM): jillian's a dumbass
jmo7148 (4:26:56 PM): and was V.E.R.Y. drunk
jmo7148 (4:26:57 PM): as was he
jmo7148 (4:27:00 PM): and whatever
jmo7148 (4:27:06 PM): we were
jmo7148 (4:27:09 PM): 'petting'
jmo7148 (4:27:09 PM): ha
jmo7148 (4:27:13 PM): i just really wanted to say that
jmo7148 (4:27:33 PM): and my dumb drunkass told him i thought about sleeping w/ him this summer
jmo7148 (4:27:45 PM): so now i also feel like he kinda expects it
jmo7148 (4:27:53 PM): which shouldn't have anything to do w/ it
jmo7148 (4:27:54 PM): and doesn't
jmo7148 (4:27:55 PM): yet
jmo7148 (4:27:58 PM): but damnit
jmo7148 (4:28:00 PM): idk
jmo7148 (4:28:48 PM): and this weekend
jmo7148 (4:28:55 PM): when we met his group of friends
jmo7148 (4:29:04 PM): they were like "so you're jillian?"
jmo7148 (4:29:08 PM): what does that even mean?!
jmo7148 (4:29:12 PM): greaaat.
jmo7148 (4:29:26 PM): and i shed, like a dog,
opalgreen16 (4:29:31 PM): that he has a big mouth
opalgreen16 (4:29:34 PM): i g2g dicussion
opalgreen16 (4:29:35 PM): brb
jmo7148 (4:30:12 PM): and he had his black coat sweater thing over and he was at work and his friend pulled a blonde hair off of it and goes "so who are you seeing?"
opalgreen16 (4:33:42 PM): hah. good thing i payed rent for him this summer!
jmo7148 (4:33:57 PM): carrie!
jmo7148 (4:34:22 PM): welp
jmo7148 (4:34:30 PM): i suck is pretty much the moral of the story
opalgreen16 (4:34:57 PM): no not what i'm saying. at all.
jmo7148 (4:35:05 PM): i know
jmo7148 (4:35:08 PM): but it's true
opalgreen16 (4:35:10 PM): i just think you're better than that!
jmo7148 (4:35:12 PM): why can't i just let it go?
opalgreen16 (4:35:39 PM): cause he's your first, of sorts
jmo7148 (4:35:47 PM): well damnit
jmo7148 (4:35:51 PM): i'm starting to piss MYSELF off
opalgreen16 (4:36:10 PM): but you will feel different and completely sure of yourself when you find your bf
opalgreen16 (4:36:57 PM): and it will be WONDERFUL
opalgreen16 (4:37:10 PM): and you'll just do what you do with him
opalgreen16 (4:38:55 PM): because it'll be for a different reason
jmo7148 (4:39:56 PM): i hope so.
opalgreen16 (4:40:04 PM): i know so.
opalgreen16 (4:41:31 PM): i'm this firm believer that, personally, if something doesn't feel right. at all. it's not. it's not practice makes perfect, it's not try again next time. it's not again....and you move on.
opalgreen16 (4:41:47 PM): it's not ask me in a week.
jmo7148 (4:41:55 PM): it's the moving on part that's hard
jmo7148 (4:42:10 PM): because why isn't it right, why not practice...all that jazz
jmo7148 (4:42:14 PM): i gotta know
opalgreen16 (4:43:12 PM): and, as you can see, i build a wall of hatred towards that person or toward people i don't think are good enough for my friend they are trying to get with. believe you me, i would've told amber if i was not a fan of matt...but i was. i don't agree with sleeping together, but i can't stop them.
jmo7148 (4:43:51 PM): i know he's not good for me
jmo7148 (4:44:07 PM): jeff told casey the appicelli boys were trouble
jmo7148 (4:44:13 PM): which i thought was funny
opalgreen16 (4:44:13 PM): i don't wanna be with a guy who had several experiences, with several girls, or any girl. because he'll be picturing what he did with her...and not me. i don't wanna know about a sexual past of his....i don't wanna know ANYTHING
jmo7148 (4:44:14 PM): but
jmo7148 (4:44:38 PM): carrie i know what you mean
jmo7148 (4:44:41 PM): and i follow you
jmo7148 (4:44:48 PM): but look how well that's working out
opalgreen16 (4:44:59 PM): i have faith that it will work out.
jmo7148 (4:45:01 PM): i'm trying to learn why and what the deal is
jmo7148 (4:45:10 PM): i know you do
jmo7148 (4:45:11 PM): i'm losing mine
jmo7148 (4:45:58 PM): my freaking brother has a gf
jmo7148 (4:46:00 PM): i mean come on
opalgreen16 (4:46:03 PM): see, and that's the thing. i find it really REALLY frusterating that girls who do whatever/whenever. get the GOOD boys, and the boys that will be with them and stand by them forever....and i have to wait
opalgreen16 (4:46:53 PM): but i deliberately remove myself from a situation, that if i don't do anything (ANYTHING) i don't know what i'm mnissing yet.....
opalgreen16 (4:47:03 PM): which is why i run outta houses, before boys try to kiss me
opalgreen16 (4:47:36 PM): which has only happened once...or twice....
opalgreen16 (4:48:17 PM): BRB! i'm moving to the lib to work on my paper
opalgreen16 (4:53:24 PM): do you have any ibprophen with you?
jmo7148 (4:53:33 PM): i don't no
opalgreen16 (4:54:17 PM): ok well we can finish talking later, or never again! but i g2g work on my paper before class. see you at 8:30!!!!
jmo7148 (4:54:24 PM): k
opalgreen16 (4:54:30 PM): byyes black
jmo7148 (4:54:34 PM): lata white
anways, sorry i couldn't finish highlighting my AIM with her AIM. but you get it! i just wanted to get your opinions, on how i did talking to her? i feel kinda like a judgemental asshole....so both your opinion's matter the most to me!
ps. all of my thoughts apply to you two :)
loveloveLOVE,
CA
oh carrie.
ReplyDeletefirst off, our boys will come. they will! even if it isn't until we're thirty, it will still be worth it to wait. i can't imagine anyone ever regretting waiting.
as for jillian...idk. it is hard because she doesn't have all of the same standards/morals/convictions as we do. and heck, if I weren't a Christian than I would probably be thinking a long the same lines as she is. maybe come at it from her angle. such as: she is better than him, that she won't regret waiting....it'll make the right guy in her future all the better, and that he's a jerk and knows she shouldn't date him and sex will only deepen her emotional connection...and that connection should be cut off, right? not deepened.
and you are not judgemental. not at all. this sounds really boastful but, you are right. we are. not cause of anything we've made up, but because of what God has asked of us. and you are being a good friend (and Christian) by standing by your convictions. she may not see it right now, but you are. so i think you are right in what you are telling her. it seems she knows you are doing it in love, and it also seems like she is close to siding with your (our) viewpoint...so i think she needs you to keep being an encouragement...even when you probably feel like she's not even listening.
keep being the wonderful friend that you are. :)
I agree with Meggers.
ReplyDeleteTelling a friend the truth and your convictions is the best thing you can do for them. They my not appreciate it at the time, or in the way you want, or as much as they should BUT...they will ALWAYS remember it. Especially in this case when you are giving Jillian advice that is distinctively different than what she would get from anywhere else. You will stand out.
But for her to understand a little better, maybe throw in more "Logical" and common sense type arguments to justify waiting beyond the moral ones. I like how you mentioned she's not on birth control...very few girls our age are capable of being good mothers right now.
Plus, any guy that is not willing to wait for you is not worth your time. Never make someone your priority when you are only an option to them. The "good" guys may be harder to find, but it's worth it...going through bad boys is not fun and the more of those you get, the more likely you will be to make even worse decisions.
P.S. I love you.